Janet Collins
Billy MCome posso trovare una bella morosa?
March 10th 2007 01:30
Where can I find a beautiful girlfriend ?
I learnt that one when my Italian relatives came to Melbourne. Sadly, I did not find una ragazza bellissima, but now that I can say it in two languages, doesn't that double my chance of finding a woman? Perhaps if I learnt German, Spanish, French and internet slang ( like lol, rofl, imo, atm... many of which I still can't understand !! ).. maybe then I would increase my chances beyond sight !!
Where am I going with this? Nowhere, but I am interested in where people find their soulmates... The most obvious place is Orble, but most of the women here are, sadly, married - many with children. Could that be because they found their partners on someone's domain blog? A couple of votes here and there, a few comments later and BAM !! It must be love - love, love...
Love is a wonderous thing - but is it possible to love at first sight? Or is that a case of extreme lust under the guise of love? Is it possible to fall in love after a few dates? Shouldn't love be something instantaneous - the moment you feel something special, someone's vibe, temprament, personality? Most of that is easy to pick up on in basic conversation, but is it love?
If you have to really know someone for years before you can 'love them', isn't it possible that love, in that case, is manufactured out of sympathy or lonliness?
Let me know what you think and don't forget:
Come posso trovare una bella morosa?
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Where am I going with this? Nowhere, but I am interested in where people find their soulmates... The most obvious place is Orble, but most of the women here are, sadly, married - many with children. Could that be because they found their partners on someone's domain blog? A couple of votes here and there, a few comments later and BAM !! It must be love - love, love...
Love is a wonderous thing - but is it possible to love at first sight? Or is that a case of extreme lust under the guise of love? Is it possible to fall in love after a few dates? Shouldn't love be something instantaneous - the moment you feel something special, someone's vibe, temprament, personality? Most of that is easy to pick up on in basic conversation, but is it love?
If you have to really know someone for years before you can 'love them', isn't it possible that love, in that case, is manufactured out of sympathy or lonliness?
Let me know what you think and don't forget:
Come posso trovare una bella morosa?
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Comment by David
Another great post, man ...
David ...
Comment by Ahmed
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Dunno where you came from Dave, but it sure made you shallow, so just a hot looker does it for you? I think I'm more real than you when I say it isn't all about the looks, then again, I don't continually write about licking such and such womans clit now do I? ... ****
Seriously, theres a two way compromise here, looks are important, but so is the person, even more so, the looks kind of latches you on but it's the person who keeps you there, of course this is only the case if you are not a shallow prick... *
(yeah I'm just trying to find the appeal in the repetitive stars and periods)
To answer your question, internet? You can find everything online these days
Comment by Ash
Australian Traveller
Flashes of memories
Love is a complicated thing isn`t it? Wouldn`t it be great if we could walk into a room and through the crowd we could lay our eyes on...the one? Then the orchestra could start up, just like it does in the movies and that would be that, you wouldn`t be able to keep your eyes/hands off each other.
Personally I think romance has been sensationalized by the movies and guys have a lot of expectations to live up to. We all want the dashing hero to sweep us off our feet and whisk us off to fantasy lands of setting suns and rose petals, but honestly how often does that happen? And does that constitute love? From my point of view love constantly changes and constantly grows...perhaps it starts off as lust most times but develops...friendship... companionship... desire...silence...comfort ...complexity.... I think soul mates are grown, not found....
You never know where you are going to find it...most times in the least expected places and often when you stop looking...just be open to it, be yourself, don`t try too hard....and keep talking that Italian boy...girls love that, even if they don`t understand what you are saying
seguire vostro cuore......(dunno if that is right but you get my drift
good luck
ash
Comment by AnthonyB
I love you guys. It's hilarious when you post after one another. Keep visiting - its one of the few things keeping this blog alive.
You're both absolutely correct. David; I agree. It is a great post. haha. Actually, I was a little stuck on topics and this has been something that I'd thought about for a while.
Ahmed; personality is the big thing for me too. I can't stand girls who just look pretty but give off a pretentious, snobbish vibe. I go primarily by the charisma of a woman, and that includes looks, the way she carries herself, the way she speaks to people and the kinds of things she says.
It all adds up and I think you can get an accurate impression of someone after just 5 or so minutes of watching them in their element.
Thanks for the comments guys !!!
- Anthony
Comment by AnthonyB
that's just the way I feel about you..
Man that's a good line. Mental note; that was brilliant. But it is great to have you here. Your comments are so down-to-earth, light-hearted and fun, but serious. It's a gift. Many people struggle to have that kind of aura about their comments.
To an extent, I agree with you. My past relationship began as absolutely nothing and took weeks to become a friendship and months to vaguely resemble a relationship, but it was a lot of hard work to last 2 years. I'm thinking maybe I should go with instinct this time and see where it takes me; OR
As you said "follow your heart" and I think that's some very sweet, sound advice. But I have noted your words and will not run off with the first sexy blonde that winks at me.
Cheers Ashy. Thanks for the comment and the visit !!
- Anthony
Comment by Wendi
True love can be spotted in the twinkle of an eye, felt in a gentle caress, and celebrated in the most blissful of ways... but when we try to leash it, own it, control it, navigate it, define it, or lace it with expectation, it's suddently a memory.
Comment by Optomistic Opportunism
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Stand out from the crowd. This will attract those who could be famous for sheer beauty, because they are doing the same thing.
Maybe you could help me road test a pickup line I thought of (don't know if its original):
"Now where would I meet a girl like you?"
Comment by Ahmed
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For the record his original post was a lot longer, he mentioned how he was honest in saying that only looks worked for him and thats how it apparently is for everyone.
*note to self: quote the bastard in case he edits his comment
Stand out from the crowd. This will attract those who could be famous for sheer beauty, because they are doing the same thing.
Just worth noting, stand out in a good way, believe me, you don't wanna do it the bad way
Comment by Ash
Australian Traveller
Flashes of memories
Yep relationships are a lot of hard work, I don`t think that changes even when it develops into love...any relationship does really.
You are still young, enjoy yourself... without being trashy of course
what Wendi said....I think that is some pretty sound advice!!!
see you around Orble.
aaaaaaashyyyyy
Comment by Mrs M
Mum's Word
I used to believe that love was instantaneous. I didn't think you could fall in love with someone after knowing them just as a friend first. I was a bit of a romantic you could say.
But Mr M came along and blew all of my philosophies out the window.
He is the antithesis of most of my life's philosophies. I believed that you shouldn't get married before you're 25; shouldn't marry your first love. Go out and live a little before you settle down. He is the opposite.
He got married at 22; married his first love and was waiting for his love to go out and live and SHARE life together before settling down together.
I have no answers. Which is a worry when my kids come and ask me these questions.
Love & stuff
Mrs M
Comment by AnthonyB
If I knew the secrets to love I would indeed be the richest man alive. A few books here and there, a couple of films - an interview on Oprah ...
You've used some very delicate language, descriptive and sensual - I can almost feel what you mean. You're right though. I've spent ages wondering exactly why my last relationship failed ( for future reference ) and I reckon you're spot on ! It's an interesting concept - that love should be free-flowing and not necessarily "worked on"...
Thanks for the enlightening visit !!
- Anthony
Comment by Wendi
Comment by AnthonyB
Opto, that's some great work right there. I do try and stand out, which is why I wear Armani Black Code (cologne) and dress myself up, smart-cas, when I go out. I've been thinking a need a new approach though... Get back to you when I get one, my current efforts have been fruitless.
I love that line though. I'll give it a trial in my local bar/clubs and let you know the results !
David you sly dog !! Deleting most of your posts ! Ahmed, you have the secrets to success. Impart your knowledge. Meet me at the Eagle, we'll share a jug and some experience.
Thanks for the comments, home boys !!
- Anthony
Comment by AnthonyB
I'm getting older now. Time is not on my side anymore. I think I'll have to find an older lady to make me feel me young, by comparison. Do you know anyone with 6 or 7 decades of experience for me?
My question: with everything you know now, would you go to a bar and try your luck or meet through a friend, and would you jump in with both feet, or be more tentative?
Thank you for the comments, Ashy !!
AAAASSSHHYYYY !! STELLA !!!
Mrs. M.;
Hey that's really interesting. That seems so foreign to me - that you could love someone so different from yourself and go against everything you believed about love and life to be with him. That's an amazing thing and such a romantic story. One day your children will appreciate it - even if it makes them uncomfortable. Love stories from your own parents are always a bit weird...
You have more answers than you realise. Other people's experiences are so very beneficial - they contribute perspective and that is something invaluable. Thank you Mrs. M. I enjoyed reading your comment and love having you over !!
- Anthony
Comment by katyzzz
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Looks like you found one there in your arms.
Advice from males around here will not be of much assistance to you, I'm sorry to say.
katyzzz.....go Anthony!
Comment by Lilla
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Hmmm, I'm older... not by 6 or 7 decades], but certainly a couple and I'm afraid to say Anthony, that I would have very little to advice to impart...regardless... I still don't understand love at all and I've been married 16 years, too. *lol*
It can be this, it can be that, but I'm still sure that when I find it, I'll know for sure... I'm sure of that now, more than ever... why? because I'm finally getting glimpses here and there of this shapeshifter called Love... one thing I do know, friendship will be a big part of it ...
Sorry, I'm not much help... but it goes back to the old fashioned thing mama used to say : you can't hurry love, you just have to wait ... cue Phil Collins...
Good Luck on your search for your Bella Belle... she's out there somewhere, just tell them upstairs, that you are ready and they're sure to hasten her along....
Lilla ~
Comment by Ash
Australian Traveller
Flashes of memories
*lol* are you serious......
With all I know now? hmmmm I have just come out of a relationship so you can see that`s not a lot at all.... if someone came along who I clicked with though I would probably give it a try, but take things slow... I am a firm believer of being open to things because you never know what opportunities you are going to miss if you walk around with your eyes closed. having said that I`m over the whole 'meet at the pub scene' though,... I dunno... it`s all very confusing...you will meet someone, somewhere, sometime... until then....JUST HAVE FUN!
AAAAAAAAASHYYYYYYYY
Comment by AnthonyB
Contrary to popular belief, that man in the photo of this post is not, in fact, myself !! Shock horror ! Hmmm, well David does pretty well for himself doesn't he? and I'm sure Ahmed's a bit of goer, but nonetheless, I think female assistance is the way to go.
Interestingly, women are a secret untapped resource for information. Perhaps because they're more willing to work through their feelings and analyse their behaviour, it gives them great perspective and that is exactly what I'm after. Go Women !!
Lilla;
Yes, I checked out your photo on the Hot Report. Surprisingly, you don't seem a lot older than myself. Maybe early 30s? 16 years is a long time to be married. It must be a wonderful thing to have that kind of indestructible love - even if you're not sure what it is ??
Thank you Lilla; I'll work through it. One day I'll run into the right girl and Youth Group - Forever Young will fade slowly in... So tacky, but sadly, so likely...
Thanks Lilla, Katyzz. I love a good comment or two !!
- Anthony
Comment by Ash
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Comment by AnthonyB
What are two lonely youngsters meant to do in this large, and often scary, world ? Come on, hop off that shelf, dust off the cobwebs and run away to India with me, where we may dig for gold ( that's what you meant by gold digger, isn't it ? ).
It's great to keep your options open - especially after a long relationship (sorry, I don't mean to be presumptuous but you don't seem the type to jump in and out of relationships ). You have a fool-proof philosophy there in having fun and taking it as it comes. I take my hat off to you.
But I am absolutely certain that you will find your Mr. Right soon enough. All you have to do is look - even on Orble. Who knows, he could be anywhere. Uh Oh. Did he just say that? He did ! What's he insinuating?
In response to your initial question, I'm turning 19 in May. Don't worry, I don't find it rude to ask. I'm almost into my second decade on this earth. How frightening !
Thanks for the visit AAASSSSSSHHHHHYYYYYY!!! Always nice to have you in my humble abode.
AND Stay Happy and Vibrant !!! Don't lose your innocence, my child !
- Anthony
Comment by Ash
Australian Traveller
Flashes of memories
I`m already at the airport...where are you the plane is about to take off!!!!????
Life's too short bruvva - and you are only young once... don`t live with regrets - that`s my motto!!
why I`m sure I have no idea what you are talking about..... (you will have to imagine the Southern accent there!)
lol frightening about turning 19? you will love it! see it`s your last year of being a teenager so you have to get away with as much as you can under that excuse
I`m enjoying my freedom at the moment actually and only having to worry about myself... it`s a lovely change......oh and not having to put the toilet seat down LOL bang goes your International Men`s Day!!!!! *wink*
be well AAAANNNNNTTHOOONNNYYYYY
make sure you bring the shovel hey! check ya in Orblespace....
ash
Comment by AnthonyB
So wise and yet so young. Never lose that, my dear friend. I did like the little accent thing you had going there. I'm sure I didn't imagine it correctly, but still, it had it's effect.
I'm just in awe... I can't believe you shot down my IMD ( international men's day ) how dare you ?! How ?! Good to hear you're living the good life. Sometimes it's a wonderful thing to have left a commitment like that. It feels so good.
By the way, I don't think I'll make it to the airport in time. Are you at Tullamarine ? Cause I think you may be at Brisbane airport, which is not what I had specified in the itinerary! had you read it, you would have known that !!!
Ah, who am I kidding. I can't stay mad at you. I need you to talk to the locals when we finally get to India...
Thanks for stopping by, again !! And you be well also.
- Anthony
Comment by JoshZ
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good post. I think alot of love also requires being attracted to the person as well (that being said, my girlfriend is the most amazing looking woman in the world) if you are thinking about a relationship that goes beyond being friends or even good friends.
As for finding a good girlfriend? Well, I have only had the one girlfriend that I am with now and I am glad that I waited for her. We were friends for a long time and our friendship has been a great foundation for our relationship.
But hey, that is the path that her and I walk. No doubt all others are different for all others.
JZ
Comment by Mrs M
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If you want a girlfriend, give up on the International Men's Day. I don't even want to hear how you think men have been exploited, persecuted, denied rights etc etc
Love & stuff
Mrs M
Comment by AnthonyB
Yo, JZ
Good work man !! All I can ask from anyone is their personal experience and I'm sure glad you shared yours. None of my relationships have been based so much on real, solid friendship; more of a long acquaintance type thing. If I become friends with a girl, I get stuck in this bloody " friend zone " and can't seem to escape.
I think I'll need to trial your strategy. Thanks for the info man !!
Mrs. M
I knew this bloody International Men's Day thing would come and bite me in the arse. I thought women liked that sort of thing though - you know, the Martin Luther King / Nelson Mandela "fighting for rights" look.
But have you noticed how men frequently appear hairless and topless on various advertisements, on billboards, magazines and the like ? That's because you women objectify us !! it's shameful, really ! Us Men are people, with feelings, not just eye candy and we expect to treated as emotional beings !
Thanks for the comments guys !!
- Anthony
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Mrs M
Comment by Cibbuano
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That same woman might seem inane and dull if you spoke to her. You need to irritate yourself with women all around you, so that the ones that you're actually interested in, they'll stand out.
Comment by GiBe
Well first of all let me tell you that I think you are a bit confused in what you have written. You don't have to know any language to find love, it comes on it's own. To love a person , well there is many ways of loving a person starting from your parents, brothers and sisters to relatives and friends but the love you are looking for starts all by itself and you actually don't realise it until something inside you lets you know. You can't really say when it is really love it could be at the first date or the first girl that hits your heart, time will tell..... You could stay years with a person or just a few minutes thinking that it's real love.
When you love a person it has to be reciprocal, you have to feel good beside that person he or she becomes part of you, like a shadow but at the same time gives you freedom for you ideas and there has to be respect, trust and complicity too. I mean it's not easy to explain it because for each person it's different and you can think, well, she or he's right for me, but time will teach you the right way, there is no rush at all. You know it could even be a person you know as a friend and you don't realise it till a while passes, like it happened to me it started like a friendship and ended up that we are happily married for 28 years of course with your ups and downs but thats what love is all about. You'll see give time to time don't worry too much about it maybe it's not time yet for you.
Anyway, good luck, but I don't think you will need it, you will eventually find your true love beleive me.
GB
Comment by AnthonyB
Glad to hear your marriage is still going strong. Yes, I've resigned myself to the fact that if I want a girlfriend I'm going to have to wait, but still, I'm happy to be a little proactive and see where it takes me.
I'm not really in any hurry, but I'm keen to meet people and get a feel for the potential out there. But what everyone has said has been very useful, and It's very important to remember, for future reference. You never know when you'll need it..
Cheers mate, and thanks everyone !
- Anthony
Comment by yoda76
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It's a debate we used to have at Uni - like Mrs M has alluded, I don't agree!
How can you truly love someone without knowing their heart? Sure as hell can't judge that from a "sparks across the room" moment.
Or perhaps in the words of someone likely far more worldly than myself... "Love is Blindness".
Nice post - keep up the good work, paesan!
;o)
Comment by Wendi
I'd say that's better than falling head over heels in love with someone, and then realizing too late that you never really knew them at all.
People don't let their guard down after the first few weeks or months in a relationship. It's not until you live with a person (or are with them long enough to truly know how they live) and encounter obstacles that you find out what they're really made of! Everything else is just frosting.
Just my opinion.
W
Comment by AnthonyB
Hmm.. I understand where you're coming from. I suppose my issue is "learning" to love someone. I'm just wondering whether having an instant connection is more sustainable in the long term than ' loving ' someone for their values, beliefs etc.
You both make interesting points and it's a matter of preference. I think if you keep aware, you can tell a lot about a person in a very short time and take it from there, but I could be very wrong.
Either way, if you want a long relationship you're probably going to have to get to know them, whatever approach you take, but I'll make sure I keep the doors open.
Cheers guys. A whole lot of great info, I loved it !
- Anthony
Comment by yoda76
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You are not going to get to know someone you don't have a connection with in the first place. Something needs to entice you... a smile that melts you, a look that makes you tingle, a laugh that fascinates you, a brain that stimulates you... that' without even starting on the physical stuff...
Sure as hell would be no fun otherwise!!
I guess "love" needs a definition in this instance - I don't believe that love is something that you can feel for someone you don't know.
Comment by AnthonyB
You're absolutely right. You can't love ( i.e. real, deep love ) without knowing someone , but you can love them ( as in passion-love type thing ) for everything they do and the way they are. And I think passion-love is what I refer to when I speak of love, because I really don't know the other sort. I wouldn't if it's Arthur or Martha.
I hope I used that ridiculous, ancient saying correctly...
Cheers Yoda !!
- Anthony
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Thanks Wendi !! By the way, I love the way your name is spelt. So inventive, but hard to get used to.
Thanks Wend !!
Anthony
Comment by Wendi
You can spell it however you like! I'm cool that way... and if five letters is too taxing on the fingers to type, "W" works, too. *winks*
Comment by yoda76
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is a resounding YES!!
There have been few who have that impact, but they do exist.
Cheers AB!
Comment by KylieW
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By the way, if in your travels to find a beautiful woman, you happen to find where all the hot single guys are, let me know!!!
Hehehe, I love David and Ahmed's arguing. It makes my day!!!
Comment by AnthonyB
Thanks Kylie, Yoda ! It's one of those personal beliefs, whether love at first sight exists. I know I've made friends almost instantaneously. A few people have been so similar to myself that we were best mates from the word go. I assume the same would, logically, apply to love.
But I guess we'll never know unless it happens. And Kylie, don't worry. I'll send you a quick SMS to let you know where the guys are hiding. But be quick ! Stocks are limited.
Cheers guys.
- Anthony